My husband and I have been together for about 16 years. We have children a good life and these days he is a good dad and partner. We were young when we had kids and he wasn't always the best has done/ said something's to me that made me lose trust. He has matured and apologised and has grown as a person. We have a good friendship we're affectionate lots of hugs and kisses, but our sex life is boring, we don't about talk much or have fun together, he is supportive of me and I of him but there's no spark, I'm a low maintenance kind of person but there's no effort there to want to talk to me or spend time with me. I know children need a stable loving home and we have that. I feel selfish for even complaining, I have tried to talk to him about it, to spend more one on one time to have fun, to connect, he just seems so complacent and not bothered by it at all.