Play "The Game": Get small 10 pieces of paper the same size, then each of you take 5 of them and write out something you'd like to try with your partner. Fold the slips and put all 10 in a hat and each draw one for each occasion you find with enough privacy and time to experiment (as, on a getaway weekend, one pair for Saturday morning, one pair for a Saturday nooner, one pair for Saturday evening, etc., etc., etc.) The rule is whatever is on any slip pulled, both partners agree to try it in good faith, but with consideration (including gentleness and adequate lubrication). Afterwards, snuggle together and give each other commentary on how it went.

Schedule a weekend getaway, just the two of you, if necessary getting a sitter for the kids. Go to a bed-and-breakfast in some interesting place, either one with good scenery or interesting activities, such as an historic district and unusual architecture. Spend as much of the weekend in bed as possible, giving each other baths and just playing around.

If one of you wakes up in the middle of the night, surprise the other by waking him/her up with your mouth and then going at it spontaneously.

Oh, and flirt with each other during the day like you’re teenagers who just met again (even if you never knew each other as teenagers, lol).

How’s this for starters?

1. Always sleep naked.
2. Be spontaneous with new and different positions.
3. Try 69, doggie style, woman on top, sideways, etc.
4. Use sex toys.
5. Do it with the lights on so you can see every last inch of each other.
6. Explore each other’s bodies slowly as though you’re just seeing each other for the first time again, especially the genital region.
7. Be loud sometimes!
8. Be rough sometimes!
9. Talk dirty sometimes!
10. Do it in front of a mirror and/or record yourselves.

Any one of these alone would spice things up. You just have to get a little creative!