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Husband doesn't want sex, acting odd, what do i do?
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Husband newly married not interested in sex.
Both bring income in, so he not sole bread winner and only works over time to funds his man "toys" which is fair as we split funds 50/50 so extra financial stress involved. I do all house duties, he does rubbish bins. So not like he super exhausted because of home demands.
I dont know what to do but this isnt what I signed up for. It's as though he married me and now there is no affection, intimacy despite being together for years before marrying.
His even deleting texts now with female work colleages which he didnt do before, focussed on her work complaint, which doesn't concern him he is not hr or management just a worker and changing his behaviours.
Basically all signs point to cheating right?!
I am miserable and dont know what to do.
He doesnt listen if I try to talk to him
What do i do?
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4 months ago
If he's cheated before, that's a huge red flag all by itself. Then there's the sneaky behavior of deleting texts; if there wasn't something in them he didn't want you to see, he wouldn't delete them. At an absolute minimum, you need to drag him to couples' counseling, if necessary via an ultimatum; if he won't go, he doesn't want to be with you. And you need an appointment with a doctor to make sure he's not having physical problems. In the worst case, if you can't get him to move in a more productive direction, you may finally have to dump him. That will be painful and unpleasant but when it's over, you will be able to refashion your life in a much more satisfactory way.
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4 months ago
If he's cheated before, that's a huge red flag all by itself. Then there's the sneaky behavior of deleting texts; if there wasn't something in them he didn't want you to see, he wouldn't delete them. At an absolute minimum, you need to drag him to couples' counseling, if necessary via an ultimatum; if he won't go, he doesn't want to be with you. And you need an appointment with a doctor to make sure he's not having physical problems. In the worst case, if you can't get him to move in a more productive direction, you may finally have to dump him. That will be painful and unpleasant but when it's over, you will be able to refashion your life in a much more satisfactory way.
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4 months ago
If he's cheated before, that's a huge red flag all by itself. Then there's the sneaky behavior of deleting texts; if there wasn't something in them he didn't want you to see, he wouldn't delete them. At an absolute minimum, you need to drag him to couples' counseling, if necessary via an ultimatum; if he won't go, he doesn't want to be with you. And you need an appointment with a doctor to make sure he's not having physical problems. In the worst case, if you can't get him to move in a more productive direction, you may finally have to dump him. That will be painful and unpleasant but when it's over, you will be able to refashion your life in a much more satisfactory way.
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4 months ago
If he's cheated before, that's a huge red flag all by itself. Then there's the sneaky behavior of deleting texts; if there wasn't something in them he didn't want you to see, he wouldn't delete them. At an absolute minimum, you need to drag him to couples' counseling, if necessary via an ultimatum; if he won't go, he doesn't want to be with you. And you need an appointment with a doctor to make sure he's not having physical problems. In the worst case, if you can't get him to move in a more productive direction, you may finally have to dump him. That will be painful and unpleasant but when it's over, you will be able to refashion your life in a much more satisfactory way.
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2 years ago
Maybe he’s involved some way in the work complaint???
Why does everyone always skip to cheating???
Why does everyone always skip to cheating???
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2 years ago
He isn't involved in it at all, how do I know because if he was the police would be on our doorstep, its at that level.
Cheating is not always the first thought however he has before and is acting similar.
But do tell me why else a man would abstain frkm sex for 4 months???!
Cheating is not always the first thought however he has before and is acting similar.
But do tell me why else a man would abstain frkm sex for 4 months???!