There are some things that will just always make the Top 10 list of ‘things women don’t look forward to’ and visiting the gynaecologist is one of them.
Whether you’re there for a smear, a scan, a transvaginal ultrasound, a colposcopy or just a good ol’ hand in the glove examination, there’s something about gynaecologists that just doesn’t sit right with many women. For some reason, although we know that they’re uniquely suited to be looking at our bits, there’s an overpowering feeling of being exposed that makes many women uncomfortable.
Well, it’s time to get over it.
A fear of the gynaecologist isn’t just irrational, it’s dangerously not in your best interest. Woman all over the world are putting off necessary health checks just because they feel uncomfortable. Well, that just doesn’t make any sense.
Now, just how do you get over a fear of the gynaecologist. Well, start by following these simple tips.
Have A Personal Probe
One of the things that many women find scary about doctors is that they know a lot more than you do, even about your own body. This is normal and nobody is expecting you to be an expert in female anatomy. However, it might put you at ease to get a mirror and check out just what is going on downstairs. Remember that your vagina isn’t just an organ, it’s an important part of your body. Having a bit of respect, and even a bit of love, for your lady bits makes you more willing to take care of them.
Get A Recommendation
It can be difficult to find a gynaecologist that you trust, and nobody wants to deal with trial and error in this instance, so talk to your girlfriends about it. Unless they’re also avoiders like you, they will likely have a regular gynaecologist who they see for checkups and if they have problems. If they really like their doctor and recommend them, it may make you feel more comfortable about making your own booking.
It’s Not Sexual
If there’s one thing that those with gynaecologist fear, it’s not being able to find a female doctor. Sure, we understand that it might be more comfortable to be examined by someone who has the same equipment as you. However, in the end, there’s nothing sexual about being examined by a male doctor. Male gynaecologist are dedicated to their profession, and that professionalism shows.
Don’t Worry About Landscaping
Shaving, waxing, perfuming or letting it all grow free and wild: everyone has a different opinion about how to look after their lady bits. But the one person who doesn’t really care, unless it’s causing a medical issue, is your gynaecologist. Don’t stress about whether you’ve shaved or cut back, or if you have a particular odour. These are doctors that spend all day looking at vaginas, and we can assure you, there’s probably nothing new with yours.
Be Honest With Them
Your gynaecologist is not a mind reader, so it’s important to be honest with them about how you feel. If you’re nervous or anxious about your appointment and examination, make sure you tell them. They can appreciate that not everyone is comfortable with the process of being examined, and they will do what they can to make you feel more relaxed. Of course, if you say nothing, they’ll never know and you’ll be left to suffer alone.
Practice Relaxing
The key to a nightmare-free visit to the gynaecologist really is knowing how to relax and ease yourself into the process. Some women find it easier to have their eyes closed, others want to be able to see what’s going on. Some like to keep things quiet so they can think of other things, others want to talk with their doctor throughout the process. Whatever your style, remember to take nice deep breaths as the examination takes place to help keep you calm. The more tense you are, the more you’re likely to feel discomfort and even pain, so chill.
Remember Your Gynaecologist Is An Expert
At the end of the day, the most important thing to remember is that your gynaecologist isn’t just some vagina doctor. They’re an expert in everything to do with reproductive health. Fearing your gynaecologist doesn’t make any sense because they’re the best person to talk with if you’re having a problem, and the more qualified to keep you healthy down there. Whether you have heavy periods, STIs, infertility or even tearing from birth, your gynaecologist is the one who is going to help you out. Trusting them and trusting in their expertise, is the clearest way to overcome your fear.