4 Tips on How To Recover From Infidelity

3. Commit to honesty and communication

The betrayer and the betrayed spouse need to make a commitment to being totally honest with each other and to communicate openly in the future, so they can avoid ever getting into a similar situation again. Perhaps, the reason the cheating spouse sought an affair was because of sexual or emotional dissatisfaction in their relationship that they didn’t feel comfortable bringing up with their spouse, for example. If this lead them to look for their needs to be fulfilled outside of their marriage, if they cannot be open and honest and look to repair issues inside their relationship in the future, there’s every chance they could find themselves back in the same boat again down the track.

4. Allow time to heal

The old saying “time heals all wounds” can apply here, but only if the couple has worked hard at repairing their relationship. If you’ve cheated on your spouse, you shouldn’t just expect that they’ll get over it in time, unless you’ve put in the effort and made the commitment to improving and working on your relationship and not straying. If you don’t work at it, your partner will still have trouble trusting you, and resentment can fester away. Your relationship still might end because of your affair…just maybe a bit further down the track than you may have anticipated.

Many who have been able to overcome infidelity and build an even stronger relationship from it report that the reason the cheating spouse had the affair was like a wake up call that something was wrong in their relationship that needed to be fixed. Discovering an affair was a catalyst to try to overcome issues around intimacy, sexual issues, validation and so on.

Did someone cheat on you? How did you recover from it?