Fix Boring Sex! 10 Ways to Turn ‘Meh’ Sex Into ‘Oh Yeah Baby’!

Boring Sex Fix 3. Quit clock watching

Don’t put pressure on yourself to have climaxed by ‘x amount of minutes’. Who cares how long it takes! Enjoy the ride. Both of you can have so much fun in extending the amount of foreplay you have. Tease each other you know how much you want something when you’re told you can’t have it right. Foreplay not only is a fabulously fun way to pass some time but it also heightens the arousal level for both of you. Foreplay can be 10 minutes long or you could start hours before even having sex. Just remember its called, fore’play’. So make it fun! What’s more a woman can be more likely to orgasm if there has been plenty of foreplay prior to the main act. More foreplay is the quickest way to help fix boring sex.

Boring Sex Fix 4. Communicate. Communicate. Communicate!

Now, men aren’t mind readers, and every woman enjoys different things when it comes to sex. They really won’t know how to improve the sex between you or what works best to make you climax, unless they are told or shown.

Talk to your partner whether it be a mid grind subtle direction or over a coffee on a Saturday morning. Sex is often considered a little taboo to talk about in everyday moments during the day, but why? We all do it, why not make it even more enjoyable by discussing what you would like to do or have done during sex.

What works, what doesn’t, your fantasies, everything! It helps fix boring sex, by creating a more open relaxed sex life where you are both open to change. Really, who doesn’t want to be a complete sex god/goddess in their partner’s eyes? Not a bad stigma to carry around I’d say wouldn’t you?!

Boring Sex Fix 5. Mix it up with sex positions

Now I don’t mean getting out the Karma Sutra book out and working your way through every time you’re getting down and dirty. Experiment. There are a multitude of books and general interest pieces on the internet that guide you through different positions and let you know what to expect as far as stimulation goes.

I’m sure your partner would also love trying new things. Sure some sex positions could leave you thinking hell no”¦..but, there is a good chance you may just be feeling ohhh yesss! As long as you’re not left in traction in a hospital bed from over exuberant body manipulation, you’ve got nothing to lose give it a go!

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Boring Sex Fix 6. Role Play

We’ve all rolled our eyes at the sexy nurse idea, but there is a little credit behind this. Introducing role play into your sexual relationship can free you of your inhibitions as you are no longer wife, mum, taxi driver or cleaner you can be anyone you want. Bring up the topic with your partner, again, talk about what your fantasies are, what kind of situation really heats you up when you’re watching tv, or reading a book.
The freedom of role playing can relax you, even give you more confidence to ask for what you really want in the bedroom and this is a great way to stop a boring sex life and hit that Big O more often.

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Boring Sex Fix 7. Self Satisfaction

I can’t get no… satisfaction. A great way to find out what really floats your boat and makes you climax is masturbation. Who else can you be totally open with if not yourself right? You know what works, experiment then tell, or show your partner.

With two ‘go to’ areas to ensure a woman climaxes (the clitoris and the G-Spot) demonstrate your preferred methods and just how to rattle the windows (so to speak). Win/win I’d say you get your orgasm, and your partner gets a lesson in how to duplicate that same result.

Boring Sex Fix 8. Oral sex and sex toys

Almost a guaranteed express ticket to orgasm central for a woman. This allows the man to fully focus on you. Take your time. Relax. Don’t rush through this. or think ‘yep, well that’s done now onto the main game’.

This time is also a great time to whip out the sex toys for you both to use and have fun with. Vibrators can amp your experience ten fold. Men, there is no shame in a battery buzz helping along the way. Once again, it’s all about open honest communication, and the willingness to mix it up sometimes.

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Boring Sex Fix 9. Stop the Blame Game

If you’re consumed with thoughts of “What’s the point in completely losing myself in sex, when I’m not going to climax anyway, he gets there way before I’m even lukewarm so I’ll just lay here and make the necessary moves and sounds.

I can always self pleasure later anyway’. It takes two to tango and if you aren’t prepared to ask for what you want, and work out how to both achieve that, you can’t expect things to change.

Boring Sex Fix 10. Have fun!

Most importantly in the search for the Big O when having sex relax, smile, laugh, have fun! You may not always get there each and every time, but there is so much fun to have trying!

Are YOU ready to become best friends with the Big Ohh and stop having Boring Sex?