10 Fun Ways To Spice Up Your Relationship

We’ve all had a laugh at the ridiculous relationship tips printed in magazines like Cosmo, but the truth is that at some point every relationship hits a bump.

It’s not enough to derail you, but it’s certainly enough to make you wonder where the passion has gone in your life. Luckily, there are still ways to turn up the heat.

In fact, we’ve brought together some of the best things you can do starting right now to bring some spice back into your life. And no, it’s not all about the sex. There are more ways to get your love life back into gear!

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1. Make Your Bedroom About You

It’s great to have photographs of your family and your children around your house, but most experts agree that they should be kept out of the bedroom. This is a space that is all about you and your partner, your quiet place where you can get in the mood and enjoy a moment of romance.

So ditch all the photos except couple shots, and while you’re at it take away the television and other screens. They’re all distractions for your spark.

2. Hug It Out

When you usually hug your partner, how long do stay connected? Just a couple of seconds is the norm, unless you’ve had a really bad day. Well mix things up a little by holding your hug for longer than 20 seconds. Really take a moment to breathe your partner in. This hugging increases oxytocin levels in both men and women, and makes you feel closer.

3. Prioritise Date Nights

When you’re a busy couple with work and even kids, it can be hard to make date nights with each other a priority. After all, you already spend lots of time together right? Think again. Time spent with your kids is distracted time, while what you really want is time spent with each other reconnecting and enjoying one-on-one attention. Make the date nights as regular as you can, at least once a month.

4. Communicate Your Romance

Not everyone excels at being a strong romantic, but you’d be surprised how much a little romance can spice things up. Try sending your partner a little love note, text or email just telling them how much they mean to you, and how much you love them. These aren’t the kind of things we say out loud all the time, and the effort won’t go unnoticed.

5. Do Some Research Together

It might be tempting to think that you’re an expert on sex, but that doesn’t mean there isn’t a place for a little bit of reading on the matter. If your sex life needs a boost, sit down with your husband and read up on sex tips, thinking about what you might want to try. All the new possibilities are very exciting, and even if you start with something new and then transition into something familiar, it makes a difference.

6. Be Clear About What You Want, Everywhere

There is nothing more important than clearly communicating your wants and needs in your relationship, but it’s important to do so in a non-critical way. Remember that your partner can’t read your mind, so just dropping hints might not be enough to get him on board with something. If you want a massage, tell him! If you feel like you haven’t gone out for dinner together in a while, let him know. And if you need something in the bedroom you aren’t getting, be clear but not mean to get your message across.

7. Create Unpredictability

One of the issues that many couples face when they’re years (or even decades) into their relationship is that there’s nothing exciting or unpredictable left. So, to spice things up you need to add that back into your life. Send your partner a little text letting them know there’s something sexy happening later, or hint it as he’s heading out the door to work. You could also surprise him with a quickie or some unexpected morning sex. Outside the bedroom consider taking a trip or trying a new hobby.

8. Slow Things Down

Life moves fast, and it’s easy to get caught up in that. Sometimes to get the heat back into your love life, and your relationship, you need to slow things down. Take time between your hectic schedules to just have couple time, without distractions or stressors. In the bedroom, try slowing the rate of your love making all the way down. You’ll have more time to enjoy the sensations, and the orgasms are amazing.

9. Revisit Your Honeymoon Days

Sparking your relationship isn’t always about doing new thing. Sometimes what you really need to do is old things with a new perspective. Think about the activities that you and your partner used to love to do when you were still in your honeymoon stage. Long candlelit dinners, or hikes in the great outdoors. Revisit these old activities and watch as your younger selves come out to play!

10. Share Your Dirty Little Secret

There’s something a little taboo about fantasies, but in a trusting relationship, they can be a secret weapon for heating things up. Be open with your partner about your fantasies, and allow them to share theirs. If you both feel comfortable, give them a try and feel the temperature rising. Being able to live your fantasy is a major turn-on, and one that is sure to have a lasting ripple effect in your relationship!

What are some things you’ve tried to spice up your relationship?