PARENTING

12 Tips on How to be a Good Stepmother

8 min read
12 Tips on How to be a Good Stepmother

5. Don’t Make Them Feel Left Out

12 Tips on How to be a Good Stepmother - Stay at Home Mum
via skinnymom.com

This is particularly important if you have your own children and your stepkids are only with you half of the time. The last thing they want to hear about when they’ve just done the house swap for the second time in a fortnight is how many cool things happened while they were gone. And don’t try and get other kids to stay quiet about it either. Kids love to brag, and your stepkids will have even less respect for you for keeping secrets.

6. Do Organise Activities For Everyone To Do

12 Tips on How to be a Good Stepmother - Stay at Home Mum
via crazymomquotes.com

You might not be a traditional family, but it’s important to make sure that everyone involved feels included in your home. This means that if you’ve got something special planned, everyone should be involved. Obviously, you won’t always be able to guarantee that around holidays when custody arrangements get even more foggy, but in general, it should be a priority. If you’re taking the kids to do something fun, don’t just take your kids, take everyone.

7. Don’t Be Too Rigid In Your Routine

12 Tips on How to be a Good Stepmother - Stay at Home Mum
via sheknows.com

If you’ve only got your step children half of the time, as is common in many separated families, you’re not going to be able to have that routine that everyone tells you is so important. Try though you might, there’s always going to some change in plans, some unexpected thing, or general chaos that’s going to get in the way. To lower your stress levels, try not to make whatever routine you can have too rigid. With kids moving between homes, there’s an element of flexibility required, and they’ll thank you for it, one day.

8. Do Give Them Something They Can Rely On

12 Tips on How to be a Good Stepmother - Stay at Home Mum
via socialmoms.com

You might not always get routine, but it does help to give your stepkids something they can rely on. Remember, divorce is hard on parents, but for children that don’t understand it the entire episode can be a nightmare. Kids feel unstable and unsure, and moving between one house and the next can be a real challenge. So whether it’s a familiar meal, a movie night, or a family activity (like going for a walk or to the movies), do something regularly that keeps your stepkids feeling like everything is as it should be. 

Next Page: On Spending Time

Avatar photo
About Author

Oceana Setaysha

Senior Writer A passionate writer since her early school days, Oceana has graduated from writing nonsense stories to crafting engaging content for...Read Morean online audience. She enjoys the flexibility to write about topics from lifestyle, to travel, to family. Although not currently fulfilling the job of parent, her eight nieces and nephews keep her, and her reluctant partner, practiced and on their toes. Oceana holds a Bachelor of Arts with a major in Writing and Indonesian, and has used her interest in languages to create a career online. She's also the resident blonde at BarefootBeachBlonde.com, where she shares her, slightly dented, wisdom on photography, relationships, travel, and the quirks of a creative lifestyle. Read Less

Ask a Question

Close sidebar