The Ultimate 30-Day Sex Challenge

Sex Challenge Day 14: Hands-Only

The good old hand job never gets old.  Whether your partner is a male or female, the ability to being able to make them orgasm with your hands is truly a talent – and one worth taking the time to learn.

The best hand jobs aren’t done in the privacy of your bedroom, they are more of a spontaneous action.  In the car on the way somewhere, when sitting in a movie theatre or at work behind a desk!

Giving a Woman a Hand Job:

1. If you are new to a woman’s genitals you should see a picture and learn where everything lives.
   You will need to know where the clit, vulva, and vagina is and also how to get to the famous g-spot.
2. Firstly run your fingers over her pubic area and see how she is responding to your touch – Also touch the thighs and kiss the lower body to get her in the mood.
3. Now work your way to the clitoris and then on towards the vagina. Use your fingers to do circle like movements around the clit and vulva, then concentrate on one area of the clitoris while stroking the other areas of the vulva. You might even get creative and massage her thighs or bum cheeks to help her to climax.
4. Be gentle, this doesn’t mean that you cannot vary the strength that you are using – ask your partner if it is okay, and if it is too hard adjust to make sure what you are doing is comfortable and pleasurable for her.
5. You might need to use some lubricant so make sure to have that handy.
6. Many women favour the attention on the clitoris and fast side to side movements or even diagonal motions around the clit is optimal for an organismic handjob.
7. Read what your lover likes and adopt your moves to what she is wanting. If she moans when you do something do more of that, if she places your hand in a certain area – go there. She is telling you what she wants.

Giving a Man a Hand Job:

Some essentials before you start:

• Have lube on hand and make sure you understand the anatomy of the male genitals.…yes just like us ladies men need to be understood too. It is not just about the penis/dick or cock depending on what you call it. Attention can be given to the balls and anus.
• Make sure to take off any rings so that you don’t hurt his penis and other areas.

Our guide for an unforgettable hand job:

1. As said make sure you use a lot of lube, trust me your man will thank you for this.
2. Ask your man how he likes to be touched, the speed, the motion and the pressure he prefers.
3. Does your man have a circumcised or uncircumcised penis? A circumcised penis is used to being touched on the tip and an uncircumcised penis is more sensitive around the hood (this is because they are not exposed like the circumcised varieties). Knowing what type you are working with will help you with your technique and making it more enjoyable for your lover.
4. Don’t be afraid of adding pressure to the penis…many are a little afraid to do this but it is okay. Be guided by your man and if he is enjoying it keep ongoing.
5. Use one hand and move the penis up and down on his shaft. When he gets harder increase the pressure, and keep up the speed – and make sure you don’t stop!
6. Make it interesting and use two hands – use one hand for his penis and the other will pay attention to his testicles, thighs, and buttocks.
7. Remember that simple is sometimes better and getting too creative can be a distraction – Also if you are doing too much you might not be able to keep it going for your man to reach climax. Do what works and what you can sustain.
8. Some other areas to concentrate on are the testicles. While you are working his shaft with one hand, use the other hand to explore his testicles (Make sure to be delicate with testicles as they are more sensitive), you can hold them with your hand, lightly squeeze and caress them.
9. How about playing with his perineum (near his anus – yes his bum), make sure you are all lubed up and then use your hand to massage this area…if you have permission you might go further and explore the anus.
10. Be creative and see what works. Work with your partner and see from his body language what he likes (you will be able to tell from his face, groans and what he is saying) and do more of what he wants.
11. If you follow this list we are sure that your man will have an orgasm to remember!

Best Tips:

• Really rough calloused hands are not going to be comfortable for your partner, exfoliate and moisturise, please!
• Clip your nails
• Ensure your hands are pristinely clean before you start

Resources:

• Bad Girls Bible
• These Oral Sex Tips Will Blow Him Away In Bed
• Oral Sex for Women – 5 Oral Sex Positions that Make it Easy for You to Have an Orgasm
• 36 Oral Sex Tips That Are Actually Awesome

Homework:

Make sure that your lips and mouth are in tip-top condition. Get your hands on some Lovehoney flavoured and edible lube, which will make Oral Day (Day 15) even better for you both.

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