Woman Is Sent Bill For Not Attending Wedding

Usually after a wedding, the bride and groom will send out thank you cards to all their guests who attended.

In the case of a bride from Minnesota in the USA, she sent out a bill to one of her guests instead!

Jessica Baker a stay at home mum from Golden Valley – was supposed to attend a relative’s wedding and had sent in her RSVP for the date. Her mother was arranged to babysit the children.

But at the last minute, she received a call from her mother to say she could no longer babysit as she had to care for another grandchild who was sick. As the invite had specifically requested no children attend the wedding, and with no other care options available, Jessica decided she would have to miss the wedding.

After the wedding, Jessica was shocked when she received a bill for $75 USD (around $106 AUD) from the bride for the meals she and her husband were supposed to have eaten.

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It came with a note that said: “This cost reflects the amount paid by the bride and groom for meals that were RSVP’d for, reimbursement and explanation for no show, card, call or text would be appreciated.”

Sending a bill like this is really poor form, with many commentators calling it tacky and classless. Etiquette would suggest that if someone doesn’t show up to your wedding, you suck it up, you don’t send them a bill. Because in life, sometimes things just don’t go to plan.

You invite guests to your wedding who are important to you and who you want to share your special day with you want them to be there to witness you committing to the love of your life and you want them to help you celebrate this love.

They don’t actually owe the bride and groom anything at all.

Weddings these days can cost a small fortune, especially if the bride and groom have gone all out with all the bells and whistles to make it a Pinterest-worthy swoon fest. The catering costs alone take up a significant chunk of the budget.

But before having a Bridezilla moment and going off the deep end, this bride should have stopped to think that it was HER decision to have meals that cost $75, not the guests’.

Since the story went viral around the world the couple, who wished to remain anonymous, issued a statement:

“We apologise for not being tactful in expressing our disappointment in your absence. We waited three weeks after the wedding for any correspondence and received nothing, this along with your last minute RSVP caused us to act on emotion rather than logic,” the statement said.

Well, etiquette goes both ways, and while it doesn’t excuse the couple sending the bill, if you’re going to not show up at someone’s wedding after you have committed to go or any other event for that matter the polite thing to do is to advise beforehand if you can, or apologise as soon as possible after the fact.

Meanwhile, Jessica says she has no plans to pay the bill. She says she threw the invoice out, but she and her husband are considering giving a donation of that amount instead, and sending the newlyweds the receipt.